The Harm in Not Recognizing Your Inherent Value I was working with a client on identifying and exploring her values. It was an area in life where she felt like she was playing small, avoiding deep conversations, and not truly expressing herself fully. She was worried about judgement from others and how this might cause change in relationships. But mostly, she was done with that and ready to fully lean in to who she was. You see, Jessica couldn’t describe her value at work.

Stop the Soul-Sucking I feel ya. Maybe you’re looking to contribute more. Your current job is life-sucking and you’re so brain dead by the time you get home, the most you can do is pour yourself a glass of wine and plop on the couch for a night of Netflix. Classy. No judgement, I really do look forward to evenings like this, too. But let’s be real. You’d like to feel a bit more connected at work and the day job just isn’t doing it for you. It’s all starting to feel meaning

Sometimes we try and fore a round peg into a square hole. We push and we shove, and we end up sweating and cursing under our breath, but still, it’s a no go. Does life ever feel like this to you? I know for me it did. Every day, showing up, trying to get myself to like the job with a commute and bureaucratic rules I didn’t want to play by. Screw Being Conventional Hey, convention isn’t all it’s cracked up to be Don’t feel like you have to cross everything off the list (marri

The Situation I woke up with that pit feeling in my stomach. I felt like Charlie Brown, “I know I should be happy, but I’m not”. I had recently graduated from an MBA program and was in the flurry of applying for jobs, sending resumes and cover letters out into the black void and trying to fully release all expectations about whether I’d get a response. I was on an intensive schedule of large ice coffees, HIIT classes and spreadsheets. Everyday my fingers hit the keyboard w

Last year I decided to leave my exciting job in social entrepreneurship in the Dominican Republic to return to the States. Go to grad school. Get a job in DC. Stop playing around and get a real paycheck. Find a partner. Make a family. Do this in approximately 3.5 years. I spent my first day off doing whatever I wanted: hanging out with friends, drinking a beer at 11 a.m. (hey, it was hot) and chillin’ out maxin’, relaxin’, just like the Fresh Prince himself. Except this didn’

Job searching is not usually described as fun. And while I can say I got more involved and kinda enjoyed certain parts of it, there were lots of trying moments (see: days, weeks), where I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Self-care and loving yourself when there are much more urgent and important priorities can seem like it shouldn’t top the list. But your relationship with yourself IS most important. It’s not selfish or foolish or too expensive. It’s worth e

Senior year of college I remember the stress of having to write 100+ pages in the last few weeks for various seminars. I feared I couldn’t accomplish this task. An adult gave me a challenge. What if you just dropped one of your classes? You don’t need the credit to graduate, it won’t kill your GPA and you already have a job lined up after graduation. Just. Let. Go. It’s true, I hadn’t quit anything before- well, except for Brownies in 2nd grade, but that doesn’t count.